Do you ever feel like you don’t fit into a certain box? Life is just passing you by and you’re trying hard to fit into the box of life. You know that box you were told to fit into as a kid… but you just don’t fit in that box. You’re just moving around. It’s no argument that as kids we learn the do’s and don’ts of how we should be. Our families, friends’ beliefs and surroundings help shape what we believe. That’s how you’ll get your moral compass… that’s what I think anyway.
Growing up friends and family influenced me to believe that it’s proper to meet someone of the opposite gender of mine and date. Then follow the “proper” timeline, getting engaged, getting married, purchasing a house, and setting down roots somewhere so you can start a family.
While Moving Around, I Guess I Didn’t Get The Memo
…Maybe I did get the memo and I just ignored it. Life is messy and often unpredictable you can always make plans but life will rock the boat and move you around. I was always a shy type of person, but I could be outgoing when I wanted to. So meeting my soulmate and having a “fairytale” life didn’t seem farfetched.
Like lots of people when I was a kid I imagined what my future would look like. I believed I would find my soulmate, we’d date, and then eventually get engaged and married. We’d move into our forever home, and have a bunch of kids (I always wanted lots of kids.) My spouse and I would put down roots, and our home would be the go-to place for dinner parties and game nights. That didn’t seem unrealistic to me at the time.
That’s not even close to how life happened.
Am I regretful of my life? No, but I would have done things differently financially if I could go back in time. There’s a quote floating around the internet that felt so fricken relatable. “I want to be sixteen again and ruin my life differently. I have new ideas.” That quote hits home, even though I don’t think I ruined my life. There is one thing in my life I wouldn’t change, having my kids. Despite the challenges with their dads I still wouldn’t change that part of my life.
This move will be my 21st move, thankfully it’s not the kid’s 21st move. As renters we have had to move a lot though. This next spot is just a temporary place, it’s not a move yet… I guess it’s a “move” simply because we have to move our stuff out on September 30th…that’s when our lease is up.
Moving around isn’t all bad, there are certainly pros and cons.
| Pros To Moving Around | Cons To Moving Around |
| Meeting new people | Hard to keep friends |
| Experience different cities, cultures, lifestyles | Nowhere to put down roots |
| If you don’t like a place there’s always a new one | You aren’t sure where you’ll live next |
I guess what I’m trying to say with all my random rambling is that you don’t have to fit into a box. You can make your space into whatever shape fits you. Don’t be afraid to be yourself and just because people expect you to be a certain way that doesn’t mean that’s how you have to be or who you have to be.
There’s no set timeline everyone’s going to do life differently. People might think you’re doing something in the wrong order but it’s YOUR life, you decide what order you want to do life. Even if we could go back in time, we probably wouldn’t want to. It would affect who we are in the present and the future. We wouldn’t be who we are, and I think that would suck.
It’s taken me till I’m ALMOST in my mid-thirties to realize, I’m a pretty awesome person. Without everything I’ve gone through, I wouldn’t be who I am today. Yes, I’ve experienced hardships and things you shouldn’t have to, but if I didn’t I wouldn’t be able to connect with people the way that I do.
On another note this last year we found a place where we’d like to settle down and set some roots. I’m hopeful that we can make that dream happen in the next year or so.